Today marks my wedding anniversary. Seventeen years married. For some, seventeen years is long. Some may even suggest that its been a struggle and how ever did you manage. For us there have been ups and downs with house moves, children, actual dire illness and dealing with all that the in-laws bring. A friend of mine once told me that we are couple number 4 that she has known that actually like each other! I find that statement distressing. Your partner is supposed to be that…..a partner. A person you can always rely upon. They are supposed to be your best friend. However that does not mean that either of us is a door mat. Or that we take turns on who will be the door mat. There are negotiations to be had and frankly, sometimes its best if he goes out and gets his hugs from his cows.
However we have always seen ourselves as a team. As our oldest boy constantly says “team work makes the dream work“. You know he’s right. Couples need to pull in together as a team to make stuff work. Together you will always achieve more. They are your cheering squad, honest and thoughtful feedback and will always have your back. Seventeen years ago I made the best decision to walk down the aisle with my best friend. He remains my best friend and confidant every since.
My only advice for a good marriage is to make sure you were true friends to begin with. If you can’t make a friendship work, then you possibly need to do some soul searching on your self or learn to make better friendships. Communication on all areas and matters are vital. If you can’t tell you best friend anything and they not think any different of you then they are not your best friend.
Remember “team work makes the dream work“. I hope you have or find the other half of your team to make the collective dream work.
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Grateful Wonder 
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